As of November 2013 I started up my life coaching practice yet again, only this time I will be servicing the Salt Lake Metro Region. In an effort to re-brand myself I will be moving this website to my new website, rdccoach.blogspot.com. The articles that are available for you to read on this website will slowly be taken down and moved (as well as expanded) to my new website.

Sunday, April 17, 2011

Tricks to making a Good First Impression

Tricks to making good first impressions
It kills me to be writing an article about this because there are a lot of parts in this article that dip into the things I teach in my 8-week program. Needless to say, I’m purposely going to be vague to encourage you to sign up for my services.

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The first few minutes of meeting someone can make or break your relationship with that person. Imagine you just meet the most attractive guy or girl in your life, now what? You will do one of three things 1) make no impression, 2) make a poor impression, or 3) make a good impression.
“No Impression” – All this means is that the other person didn’t notice you, or if they did, you didn’t set yourself enough apart from other people for them to care.
“Bad Impression” – A bad impression happens when you make a distinct impression on the other person and that impression makes you undesirable to them. –(You don’t want this).
“Good impressions” – Whenever you make a distinct impression on someone and it isn’t a bad one, then you left a good impression.
Hopefully, whenever you make no impression on someone you find attractive, you will still have the chance to try again at making a good impression on them. If you do not make a 'good' first impression, you will have NO chance of building a relationship with them.

Making a good first impression is based on your ability to impress people with your physical, mental, and emotional status. But don’t get confused about this: you can’t go around openly expressing your best traits because it’s a turnoff (it's also called bragging). So how do you do it in a way that people will find acceptable?

First, “Be the right person for the right person.” Personal development is the first step to making a good first impression. People love associating with others who are interesting and who they can relate to. Fortunately, everyone is interesting, even you; you just need to find what makes you interesting to other people. Figure out what your strengths and weaknesses are and think about how you can lead a conversation into those ares.









Second, (okay it's more like first, because personal development is a given) look the part. Would a cowgirl look for anything other than a cowboy?—probably not. There is a culture behind everything that we wear and the way in which we wear them. Subconsciously, society has developed a method for grouping people they wish to associate with and excluding those they don’t want to be involved with. Simply put, if you want to make a good physical impression, dress the part. That means wearing nice clothes if you want to attract good attention, and if you are a girl, wearing makeup and taking care of your hair is a must. If you are a guy, keeping yourself clean and well-kept is a must.

Third, sound intelligentEducated people speak differently than those who are dumb as rocks. An obvious example is the accent you use, people are more turned on or off by the terms and phrases you use and the subjects you choose to talk about. –again, for some reason, people like to drop "important" topics into a conversation to show that they are “smart”. But by forcing it, people will see right through you and  assume that you are just out to brag (not a good thing). Communicating with tact, like the other traits, is a skill you simply have to learn if you want to be looked at as more than just a stuck up man or woman.

Forth, Being comfortable with who you are. Self-confidence and optimism go a long way to impressing people.

A lot is invested in the first few moments of meeting someone. There are many things you can do to prepare beforehand so that when the opportunity arises you can blow the competition out of the water and make a strong (good) impression. The purpose of a good first impression is to open doors to a future relationship with that person. Think of it as the first brick put on a building.

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